Posted in Life, Mental Health Awareness, Tips/Advice

The Cost of holding your feelings in

I was having a heart to heart conversation with a good friend and he was saying how he had a death of a loved one recently and how he usually doesn’t talk to his feelings or things that are going on. And I went on this little rant on how it is important for people to talk about their feelings.

And I can’t stress how important it is to talk about your feeling and not hold it in.

When you hold it in, it’s extremely bad for your mental health, just like holding grudges. It just holds this negativity in you that you don’t even need. It creates this giant negativity cloud inside of you and it could just really mess with your mind and emotions.

If you’re only thinking about what happened in the past and holding it over you, you become more paranoid, anxious and guarded and that doesn’t help you or anyone around you.

I was like that most of my teenage years and after stepped out of myself and looking at what went wrong with a lot of my past was that I was too stuck in the past. I was so scared of the past repeating itself, I put up walls for everyone I met. And it drove them away, I made it extremely difficult for them to get close to me or to help me. And that wasn’t a great feeling for me, because it made me feel even more unlovable and that no one cared about me. And it hurt them because they didn’t feel good enough because they couldn’t close enough and help me like they wanted to.

I know the world isn’t always in a great place and there are bad people out there who just like to cause and inflict pain, but if you’re in the mindset that everyone is bad.. well, you’re really going to miss out on some great people. People who could actually be a great influence or could better your life. I always like to think that every person that comes in my life is put there for a positive reason. If even they hurt me, I try to understand and look at the bigger picture with it.

The cost of holding your feeling in, holding a grudge and even hating people, to me, I believe that it can really hurt your mental and emotional state. It can also in the end, reduce your life. when you mental and emotional state is at a constant worry and stressed out, it wrecks your immune system, which causes you to be more prone of getting sick. And you know sickness can kill you (very unlikely, but let’s be real.. being sick sucks and you get very miserable).

No one is worth having a stuffy nose, sore throat and having that cough that keep you up all night over. So try not to stress yourself out by holding a grudge or holding your feeling in or hating people. It’s seriously not worth it.

If someone hurts you, or makes you cry.. take your time dealing with it but don’t get revenge or get even. Don’t hold a grudge and when it’s time, forgive them. Because you need to let that grudge go. Do better in your life, find your own sunshine and happiness.

Holding your feelings in is just like waiting for a volcano to erupt. And that’s really not healthy. Like I told my friend who inspired this post, what you can do is, talk to a close friend (I’m even here. Just message me on social media or email me. I’ll be there), write it down. But don’t keep it bottled up. If you like art, paint or draw about it. Write a story out of it, dance about it. Just do something that doesn’t keep it bottled up.

I was never great at bottling my feelings up because I’m way too emotional. I’ll explode so easily, so I use to dance to release that negative energy and it worked. You have to find something that helps you release that negative energy, and it really does make you feel better.

I challenge you to talk to your feelings, next time you are down, anxious, mad, upset, etc. Talk to someone you trust, me, go on a mental health app or site (Apps  I can suggest is Talklife and Vent). And I also challenge you to write every day or every week. Write the date, what happened in your day, your overall feelings, the good that happen and the bad that happen and an inspiration quote that will motivate you for tomorrow.

As always, keep it open and keep it dorky.

With lots of love,

Jade ❤

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Posted in Life, Resources

The Liebster Award

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I have recently been tagged by the kindest, hard-working and amazing mother, Courtney, a blogger at https://unfilteredmamasite.wordpress.com/, for the Liebster Award. This is a tag that was designed to help new bloggers become discovered and connect with the rest of the blogging community. The rules are as follows:

  • Recognize who tagged you and promote their blog on your blog
  • Answer all questions asked of you
  • Create 11 NEW questions
  • Tag 11 people with under 200 followers

Questions from Unfiltered Mama:

1. What type of blogger are you? How did you get to where you are right now?

I am a mental health, advice giver, give you my thoughts and knowledge kind of blogger. I just have something that I talk about with my friends, boyfriend, family, social media, anything that inspires me to think about motivation, encouragement and try and connect it to my recovery journey for my depression.

2. When do you find the time to blog?

Well, currently it’s summer. So I have nothing else really to do. I try to blog as much as I can right now or write ideas down or type them up in my phone. When I’m away from my computer or don’t have much time, I type what I can in my memo pad in my phone and touch back at it when I have the time. I also have my wordpress app on my phone and tablet.

3. Out of all your published posts, which one is your favorite? Why?

Ooh, that’s hard. I really like the one about body image and wearing your illness. Those two are my top favorites because I always hated the way I looked because I would compare myself to other girls. My body wasn’t as big in certain areas as those, my face doesn’t look like that. She’s so pretty, why can’t I have that body, etc. And it just brought me down. Until I had that conversation with that friend that I briefly talked about in my post, I was feeling a bit confident in myself so I tried understanding that I am me, I am pretty great and I am beautiful, just the way I am. Wear Your Illness, is a favorite of mine because I hated hiding my illness, hiding a part of who I am, so opening up a little about it made me feel stronger and like I owned my depression. And it gives room for people to understand that the stigma of these mental illnesses aren’t what they think they are. They can ask questions, which I want them to want. I really want to create shirts that say “I am _________” on the front and on the back it says “Ask me about it! 🙂 ” with a little hashtag on the bottom that says Wearyourillness. I think it’s a great way of owning your illness, overcoming it and spreading awareness of it!

4. What do you enjoy doing in your free time, besides blogging?

Well since it’s summer, I enjoy being with my friends, my boyfriend, sometimes working (I work in a great environment), dancing, listening and learning from Ted Talks and watching New Girl.

5. Is you could travel to any place in the world, where would you go?

Oh golly, I would go to Hawaii and Alaska on a cruise, and to London, England. Maybe visit Europe too (I’ve been recommended by some European friends that I have).

6. Are you a book reader? What book would you recommend everyone to read?

Unfortunately, I am not a book reader. But I do have some books that I read and loved, Zodiac by Romina Russell and Fallen by Lauren Kate. I’m stuck reading “It’s Kind of A Funny Story” by Ned Vizzini and “Uninvited” by Lysa TerKeurst. All the books that I listed I would recommend.

7. Have you had any negative experiences with blogging? What did you do to overcome it? 

I’ve actually haven’t had any negative experiences with blogging. But If I did, I wouldn’t really let it bother me. I’ve had some things negative experience with peer counseling on some mental health apps, so I’d probably handle it the same way… maybe a little better. Just breath, stay calm and don’t let anyone’s negativity bother you or change you.

8. Where are you from? Favorite place to go in your town?

Well, I’m from a small town in Pennsylvania. I never really left my house to go anywhere in my town. My favorite places to go when I was a teen in high school was dance practice in a town 30 minutes away. Now as an emerging adult, I moved to Mechanicsburg, PA (which is 45 minutes from the town I was a teen) and I really love going to 2nd and Charles which is in Harrisburg and my old college which is about 10 minutes from my house.

9. What has surprised you the most about blogging and its large community?

What surprised met he most about blogging was how helpful it can be for someone who has a mental illness and is struggling. It’s another outlet and I encourage anyone really to blog or write to help release that stress. Something surprising about the large community is that everyone is so supporting, warm, welcoming, friendly and helpful. I’ve talked to so many other bloggers and I loved it.

10. What are your long-term goals for your blog?

My long-term goals for my blog would be to be shared by a lot of people and people coming back. The only reason why I made this blog was because I have this huge dream of reaching out to as many people as I can and helping as many people as I can. And right now, I felt like I couldn’t help as many people since I’m still in school to be a counselor and a mental health educator, so I thought to myself “how can I help others right now?”

I wanted to volunteer more, I try peer counseling on mental health sites and maybe a blog will help. So here I am! I really just want to spread love, encouragement, hope and motivation to people who think it doesn’t get better, they are alone and struggling. And if that’s 1 view or 10,000 views, so be it. I don’t want to be famous, I just want to help.

11. Name something you can’t live without and explain why.

One thing I can’t live without, gosh. Just one? I really hate these questions because I’m so indecisive. I can’t live without my social support. Which includes, my friends, family, s.o., God, community. (I think I finally beat the system with this answer, it’s one answer but many parts in that answer, whoop whoop!!). When I was going through my hardest part of depression, I didn’t have much of a support system, so I struggled alone. I felt like no one cared and no one would be bothered if I was here or not. And it’s one of the worst feelings ever, I never want anyone to feel that way, ever. No one deserves that. So I have amazing friends, family and an amazing boyfriend that support me,  and it feels really amazing to finally feel connected to people and loved.

 


To continue the chain, I nominate the following bloggers for The Liebster Award:

  1. Andolina – http://lessonsfromastudentmom.com/
  2. Nicole – http://therusticbelle.com/
  3. Rene – http://blackgirllostkeys.com/
  4. Noelle – http://www.ndswithdegrees.com/
  5. Brianna – http://briannafae.com/
  6. Caitlin – http://caitlinwren.blogspot.com/
  7. Kristen – https://prokindproject.wordpress.com/
  8. Michelle – http://micheledaniellek.com/
  9. Chloe – http://www.anxietydepressionandme.com/
  10. Lena – http://lenafordonline.com/
  11. Chloe – http://toomuchtooyoungblog.wordpress.com/

My questions that I ask to be answered are:

  1. What is your story?
  2. How is your recovery/self-love journey going?
  3. What’s one thing (or person) that always encourages/ motivations you?
  4. What’s 5 things that make you happy?
  5. What inspired you to blog/write?
  6. What are your future plans in life? (from career, to decisions to the blog)
  7. What’s your favorite mental health organization and why?
  8. What do you hope your blog will accomplish with the community or with others?
  9. What’s your opinion/thoughts/feedback on 13 reason why? (If you watched it)
  10. What do you do when you are going through an episode, crisis, attack, etc?
  11. What is some advice you would give to someone who might be struggling with a mental illness?

I want to thank Unfiltered Mama again for the nomination, it was a lot of fun, answering and thinking of the questions! I hope everyone tagged has fun answering mine! 🙂

Keep it dorky!

With lots of love,

Jade ❤

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Updates on your friend, Jade!

Hey, lovely souls!

So besides blogging and social networking for this blog, I’ve been working on some other things!

First thing I want to say is that I am not an Ambassador for Worth Living! I’m super excited to be a part of the family!

Another thing is that I’m working on a collaboration project with some other bloggers and I would love (and kind of need) your feedback!

So here’s the survey link:   https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/HQ826JK

Thank you again for the feedback!

I am also super excited to start my junior year this upcoming fall, I actually just transferred colleges. I went from a small private christian college to Penn State! Whoop whoop! I also just switched to a Psychology major and a Human Development and family studies minor (At my other college it was reverse!)

I hope to get more involved with the mental health community and with all of you guys! So if you want to collaborate or anything, please shoot me a message on any of my social medias (Links in contact me tab) or my email (which is also in my contact me tab)


 

With lots of love,

Jade ❤

Posted in Mental Health Awareness

Wear your illness!

Wearing my Illness. I am not my illness. I am more. 

💚 : Depression, here’s to all the times where you brought me now. Maybe because yiu were trigger, maybe because you felt like bringing me down. And the times where you brought my mind against myself. Well no more and I’m stronger than this. 

💙: Anxiety, even though I don’t experience it much, all the timed you made me worry and nervous for no reason. Made me second guess my life, my decisions, my thoughts. Well, im strong then this. 

💛: its suppose ti be orange but there isn’t a orange heart. Self harm, for all the times where I put a knife, push pin, scissor or razor blade up to my skin. You made me feel more pain and no pain at all. Every cut made me feel less worth it. But now I’m self harn free for idk how long now (i forget to keep track), I may have thoughts but I’m never going back to that. 

❤: support, here’s to all my friends and loved ones that are suffering through this. Know that You are not alone. I’m here for you. I believe in you, I think you’re amazing, I’m so thankful for you and I love you. You can do this, you can get through this and I’ll be here every step of the way. It gets better, I’ve seen the better side. I haven’t reach it but I can see it. Keep on my warr;or❤
Now I challenge you to follow the picture above (I’ll post it below too) and wear your illness! Be proud of your journey because you’ve come a long way and You are just so strong. Show the world, who you are and that you aren’t letting this illness get to you! 

Mental illnesses are nothing to be ashamed or embarrased by. Neither is talking about it! So lets end this negativity and stigma towards mental illness, talking about them and abou therapy/counseling💪

Keep inspiring and keep it dorky! 

With lots of love, 

Jade♡

Posted in Life, Mental Health Awareness, Tips/Advice

Counting the Days

Hey lovely souls, I have been working this whole week for a conference at my old college! And man, was it tough. I work in dining services and some people were absolutely the worst. We have so many issues with people and so many rude people to handle. I just don’t understand how people can be so rude to people who are waiting or working for them. 

Well, myself and a bunch of other coworkers have been counting down until the night/day they leave. This conference leaves us extremely exhausted. It’s not like the whole group of them are bad, its just those select few that just made us kinda happy that they’re gone. 

As always, a few bad apples doesn’t mean the whole tree is bad. I’ve also met some lovely people from that conference, they generously thanked us continuely for our hardwork and dedication. 

Something I learn from this conference is that counting the days only make it longer. Sometimes its better to enjoy what you can. 

Find the good in the bad. And that helps you with gratitude and positivity. If you start looking for the good in the bad, your mood starts to change, and you look at things a little more different then you use to. Now this can be hard and it sometimes takes a lot of practice.  

I use to be so negative and now I try to think and be more positive. In all my years of having depression, ages 16-19, I spent thinking negatively. It was this past year, where I started to be more positive. And honestly, my mood has been getting better. Even though, I’ve been going through some stuff (friendship falling ouys, changing colleges, breakups, etc), I’ve been a lot happier in this year than i have for the past 3/4 years of living with depression. 

So, I challenge you to be a little positive. I started with journeling about your day. I would write a summary, the bad that happen, the good that happen and a quote. 

And I think it helps. So try it! 

Also try encouraging others by sending them positive, encouraging quotes (whether its sending them to a friend or sharing it on social media) can increase your positivity. 

And lastly, smile! Smiling makes a little bit happier. It also tricks your brain into thinking your happy, so you’re more likely to be in a better mood. 

*hey, if I got through this conference with a smile. You can get through your day with a smile! (My tip is think of yoir favorite song amd sing it i yoir head. I sang Despacito over and over again throughout the day) 

Keep it positive and keep it dorky. 

With lots of love, 

Jade♡ 

Posted in Life, Mental Health Awareness, Tips/Advice

Body Image 

I was talking to a friend today and I mentioned how I’m working on my body imagine and starting to love myself for who I am. He supported this and he said “be confident!” 

Most people wouldn’t think that I use to hate my body. But I use to badly and I started slowly to love myself as time went on.

I’m pretty average but perfect to my body type, height and weight. But I still hated how I looked.

I saw other girls and they were so much prettier, their bodies was better. And I felt that guys only liked that. 

Well, they don’t. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.
I did a small online social experiment on a teen dating site called MeetMe, I posted a picture of myself on a selfie tab. And i got a decent amount of likes and comments. I then checked out the most liked picture and it was a pretty girl wearing a tight dress. So I found a picture of mysef looking my greatest with tight dress.

Well the 2nd post got more likes and comments. Most of the comments were positive and some were negative. And it made me realize that not everyone is going to find you attractive. And that’s perfectly okay.

Just because one person or a group of people doesn’t find you attractive, doesn’t make you unattractive… it’s just their opinion and their preference. Don’t take it to heart too much.

If someone doesn’t like you for who you are, whether it’s personality or your looks/body… it’s seriously their lost.

They don’t deserve you if they don’t like all of you. 

You are amazing, you are beautiful just the way you are. We all have our flaws, and this journey is learning to love our flaws and embrace them. And then inspiring others to take this journey too, as well as guiding them along. As a mentor or a friend.

So, my beautiful and amazing friends… I challenge you to start this journey.

Start by writing down, everything you dislike about yourself and try and come up with ways you can improve your view of these dislikes.
Also, I want you to look up body positive quote and stick them on your mirror or on the wall.

Look on twitter, tumblr, facebook, wordpress, instagram for positive body image pages and they can help also.

You can do this, we can do this. And I’ll be here every step of the way!

If you need some help ot more guidance, please feel free to email me – xo.lotsoflove.ox@gmail.com

Keep it strong and keep it dorky.
With lots of love,
Jade♡

Posted in Life, Mental Health Awareness

Poolside thoughts..

I was at the pool with my s.o. and he was saying how his back hurt. And that made me think. 
Why do we believe people when they describe physical pain but not mental pain?

When someone is sad or is depressed and they tell someone. It’s more likely that they get told “oh. Its in your head.”
Well, so is physical pain. I couldn’t feel my s.o. back pain so is it actually there?

Yes, of course. If I just told him “just walk it off,” or “its all i your head”… well, that might go over well.

So why is it okay that we just belittle mental illnesses and mental pain?
Sure, physical pain hurts but it will heal.
Mental pain is the same but mental pain can drive someone to suicide.

Mental pain is easier to get, especially in today’s society (from media’s idea body and looks, from bullying and cyberbullying and from  the stigma of mental illnesses) and harder to get rid of.

Isn’t that worth paying attention to?

This is something we need to change. Mental pain is just as important as physical pain. We don’t need to belittle physical pain to finally make mental pain looked at better. 

We ourselves have to start the change from our own lives. Make self love, self care and mental health important in our lives. And then we educate family, friends, church, school, community about mental health. 
We can be the end of the stigma and the belittling of mental pain and mental illnesses!

Keep that in mind and work towards that goal, I challenge you!
Keep it nerdy!

With lots of love,
Jade ♡

Posted in Mental Health Awareness, Resources

Online Resources I found useful

Since I’m a huge mental health advocate, I tend to follow many mental health project accounts on my personal Instagram and Twitter. And from these, I’ve found pretty great organizations that are perfect for someone who is a support, fighter and/or survivor!

Here’s a list, my opinion and summary:

 To Write Love On Her Arms – https://twloha.com/ 

I have to thank my ex boyfriend for telling me about this. TWLOHA is an amazing organization that raises money for mental health awareness. I’ve bought support packs that have a t-shirt, print and info cards. I’ve fallen in love with the info cards and I still have a ton that I give out. TWLOHA even has their own blog, so I recommend it. The website is very organize, also I have yet to get involved with TWLOHA but it’s definitely on a bucket list for me!

Project 375 – https://project375.org/

Another thank you to the same ex boyfriend who talk me about TWLOHA. That ex was a huge sports fan and he told me about this. Checking it out and learning more, which I do recommend checking out the “who we are” section. They have a small section about mental illness in general. They have their own newsletter, which I really like, called The Chatter. They have their own playlist on spottily called Project Hopeful, I haven’t checked it out but I will and I’ll do an update on the resources when I finish and find more resources! You can donate any amount to this organization, however there are 4 main things you can donate money towards and that is LUCID APP: Mental Health App, Community Resource Folder, YMHFA (1) Training for High School and Gift of LUCID App for One classroom and they range from 100$-2,500$. I really do love how they are focusing on spreading awareness into the schools and community. Also really love how athletes like Brandon Marshall are getting so involved into the mental health education and awareness.

Project Semi Colon – https://projectsemicolon.com/

I think we all know Project Semi Colon, or at least you know about the Semi Colon, I actually haven’t checked out the website until recently. And I’m in love from first sight. They have a good amount of mental illness information and they have a good amount of things you can do to take action with or for Project Semi Colon. They have this tab called “My Mental Health” which includes a section of information for being concern about someone who is struggling and might be at risk for suicide, struggling with suicidal thoughts yourself, being a suicide survivor and information on how to cope with a trauma. They also include a tab for getting help which involves a health screening, finding treatment near you and finding courses for education (which I might try since to educate, you must be educated). There is also a place where you can share your story and read other stories. I encourage others to share their story, it’s a starter of where you start on your journey and you can look back in the future and see how far you’ve came since the start. Definitely a site to check out. Also register for an Project Semi Colon Account and friend me! lotsoflovebyjade 🙂

The Buddy Project – http://www.buddy-project.org/

I recently just found this organization, they followed me on twitter and I loved it. It’s an organization where you get paired up with a buddy and raise mental health awareness. It’s very simple actually, very fun. I love meeting new people and I love getting to know people’s stories! I actually just got my buddy and she’s pretty awesome. I’ll post her wordpress link so you can check her out. She’s a mental health advocate just like me!

Check out my awesome new friend  → https://leenahlovesherself.wordpress.com/

With Project Buddy, you can get involved by signing up to be a buddy, being a campus campaign Rep by educating and supporting mental health education on your college campus. You could also be involved with the Youth Advisory Board which just help improving BP! They also provide resources like; hotlines, self harm alternatives, a resource for those with anxiety, triggers in shows and movies and other helpful resources

Spark Bracelets – http://www.sparkbracelets.com/

I found Spark Bracelets on Instagram, or they found me. They followed me first and I kinda liked their product so I followed back. They sell these bracelets for mental health awareness. So if you’re looking into cute and little mech that also raises money and awareness then spark bracelets is your site! They also provide these really cool listening services packages for sell, which is different. They provide a ton of hotline resources in a bunch of different countries and I absolutely love their catch phase, “spark a conversation!”

Pro Kind Project – https://prokindproject.wordpress.com/

Well this lovely person actually recently followed me on Twitter and connected with me. Which I absolutely love! I checked out her blog and I love what it’s about. I’m really for self care for yourself and being kind to others. Something that I’ve been struggling with for so long. Kristen is very kind and very open, she tells her followers that if they ever need anyone to talk to that they can talk to her. Which I admire a lot, I think it’s a great blog and project that she’s been developing and I’m excited to see where she goes with it. I also do hope to get to know her more because what’s better than a bunch of mental health advocate superheros together saving the world? Nothing!

Radical Transformation Project – http://www.radicaltransformationproject.com/

I found this on Pinterest while I was looking for mental health Ted Talks. (I’ll post another blog about helpful Ted Talks) and it’s very helpful. Not only does it include 5 really great Ted Talk but also includes tons of resources and information about a ton of stuff. Just a small list of what the website includes; self care for mind, body and soul, kick ass motivational speeches, ultimate breakup survival guide, mental health resource library, what you should know about domestic violence, etc. They also have a free mental health planner that you can download, which I did. It’s a really great site to check out.

Talk Life: You’re Not Alone – App you can find in the App Store and Google Play 

https://talklife.co/

You can also do it online too, just the app is better. I found this app while exploring my google play. I love it, I haven’t really been active on it recently (neither with vent or blogging, sorry friends) but it is really great. It’s a community where you can talk about what you want. You have a username and you can actually post anonymously. I know as a member of Talk Life, the community is very supporting but do know to be careful when reading some of the stuff and even posting because some things could be triggering to you and to other. They offer a trigger warning when you post it but not everyone uses it. You can register to be helped or to help or both. You also have the option to help more out in the Talk Life Community with being a moderator or buddy. A monitor is just help to make sure Talk Life is safe and being trained to be a talk Life Buddy is getting a little bit of training in Mental First Aid. The training process for that was very well, they included videos and they tested you. So I liked it a lot.

Talklife also includes in the app hotline numbers if you feel like you are in a crisis and it pops up once in while when you post. Which I think is pretty great, it’s very handy for someone who may need to call the hotline.

I really recommend it but just always make sure to practice self care. Especially if you’re there to help others, remember that your mental health matters too.

Follow me on Talk Life – HeyitsMissJade

Vent – App you can find in the App Store and Google Play

http://www.vent.co/

Vent is a little bit like TalkLife, talklife is more mental health awareness-y, Vent is basically for anyone who wants to talk about their feelings or anything really. So things may be a little more inappropriate. It’s a great app, I went on after I found TalkLife because I wanted to help out a little more with people online. Vent doesn’t have moderators or buddies like talklife does.

Listen to me on Vent: – Heyitsmissjade


 

I hope you enjoy the list of resources! I’m always looking for more, so if you want to be featured or know a great resource. I’m going to try and put up a way to contact me through the blog and feel free to contact me!

Email: xo.lotsoflove.ox@gmail.com

IG: @lotsoflovebyjade

Thanks for reading, keep being awesome and as always keep it dorky!

With lots of love,
Jade

Posted in Mental Health Awareness, Tips/Advice

What its like dating a depressed and anxious type of person…

Dating in general can be something tough. Especially how society viees relationships -a-days. 

Dating while having depression and slight anxiety, well… thats a challenge sometime. 

I’ve always had troubles dating in the past, well the guys I’ve dated only made my illness worst. 

The fact that my first relationship was emotionally abusive didn’t help my cause. I’ve had a lot of damage to work on. 

So whats it like dating someone, just like me? 

Well for one, I get depressed. 

Shocker right? Even on my medication, I’ll have eposides. I’ll get upset, I’ll cry my eyes out. I’ll get moody. 

Sometimes it’s physically hard to get out of bed. And other times, I feel worthless. And all I’ll think in my head is why is my significant other with me? Then I’ll list every single little thing wrong with me. And then I’ll get doubtful and feel hopeless. Which makes me even more upset.  

Let’s not forget about the times, where I’ll stay up overthinking or having an eposide and end up crying my eyes out. That’ll happen sometime. Best thing to do is just hold me and just make me feel like you’re there and you care for me. 

With my slight anxiety, well have you ever seen Pixar’s Inside Out? (Great movie, you should see it if you haven’t). Well having anxiety in a relationship (well in life i general) is like having Fear control everything. 

In my head, fear has a field day. “What did he mean when he said that?”, “he probably doesn’t even care,” “oh, he actually doesn’t like me,” “he’s probably going to dump you” and it just goes on and on.

Now, as a 20 year old going through a bunch of relationships in my teen and young adult life. As well, as an aspiring mental health educator and counselor… I’ve learn how to better control it. 

The first thing, I usually do is tell the guy I’m interested in, straight up… I have depression and slight anxiety. And if he can’t handle it. Its honestly his lost. 

The next thing I do, is I let them know how to deal with an depression eposide or an anxiety attack. 

Relationships will be nothing without communication. 

Dating someone with a mental illness is tough (having a mental illness is tough) but it isn’t impossible. Don’t give up so quickly, because things get tough, you could have the most nicest, loving and loyal person. Just because they have some troubles doesn’t mean they aren’t worth loving or fighting for.