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Social Media and Mental Health

Something we all use and love now a days (well, its love and hate)… social media.

If you’re like me and always on it… it can be very bad… but it can be very good.

I saw this quote about social media and it’s becoming something I want to share to everyone, especially the newer generations..

social media

Side note: Isn’t this quote amazing, Dave Willis you rock for this quote… if he is the one who even made the quote but whoever made this quote. It’s amazing and I’m using it as a life quote. One day in my little, medium size or big office as a high school guidance counselor, I will have this quote (along with many others) on the wall. Maybe little info guides about social media and mental health!

Anyways, social media can be very helpful. It can connect us to a new type of “social support” but of course, it’s not a physical social support, which is proven better for our health. Physical social support but realistically, not everyone always has access to that. So social media can really help in that sense. Apps like Talklife or vent can be very helpful. Other mental health social media apps where they provide a community is super helpful to people. Myself included!

Use your social media to make an impact in the world. I know I have an Instagram, Twitter, tumblr and FB for Lots of Love by Jade but I don’t always use them because I’m too busy with college and other things… and honestly, on my own social media for my personal self. And that isn’t always good. I do still post encouraging pictures and quotes and tell others how beautiful they are and compliment people so I’m not completely a lost cause.

I did a presentation with 2 friends on social media and positive psychology and it was very helpful. I actually learn that breaking up bad social media habits just by complimenting and positively commenting  on other’s posts on FB or IG or tweeting on twitter. Breaking up that endless scrolling that we are all use to.

There is a correlation between depression and social media use, it’s not proved. Correlation does not mean causation (for those who don’t speak psychology, correlation means a relations between two variables). But we are seeing more cases of depression and psychologists do believe that social media does play a role in it (especially with self concept)

I also learned that Instagram is the most risk factor app when it comes to mental health (and youtube being the best) and there is studies done about it.


♦I’ll post the link here. Check it out and read it. I honestly do recommend it because it is super interesting. 


But with Instagram, most people will start to compare their selves to other’s, I know I do it too. I’m just randomally going through IG and I see this gorgeous girl with a perfect body and yeah, I feel pretty down because I wish I was that pretty or my body was a little better than I am.  And that’s really unhealthy and really bad for you.

It decreases your self esteem and that’s not what we want. We want you to love you for all of you. Because you deserve that.

Something to keep in mind, they don’t always look like that and that picture was probably one of 30 that she chose from. And it probably took at least 20-30 minutes to capture the perfect picture.

“Never compare your offstage to everyone’s front stage.” 

I love that quote. So much. And I use it to remind myself that I’m beautiful too. And that may be hard for me to do some days.

People put their best photos, and their best moments of their life on social media, that’s the point of it to make people aware of what they do.

It’s a social comparison and a social competition, which you DON’T have to be a part of.  

But of course, like I said before… not all social media is bad. Social media has a good side too. I already touch on the social support, but studies shown that looking at your own Facebook profile can increase your self esteem.
And things like the “This Day” from Facebook where they show you what you posted on this day for however long you had Facebook can really make you happier because it shows you memories that you can hold on to and smile about.

And most importantly, make the best out of your social media.

Post more positivity, encouragement and inspiration on your social media. Compliment people on your feed, it might be weird at first but you might make a new friend. Show your amazing personality and heart through social media and we can make more positive than negatives when it comes to social media.

Let’s change that fact that social media can decrease your self esteem to increase it. And change starts with you. (And me)

Keep it positive, keep it inspiration, keep loving and as always, Keep it dorky.

With Lots of Love,



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28 Days of Loving Yourself: Days 4 and 5

Day 4: Trust Yourself

Trusting yourself is very important and it goes along the lines of day 1 of nothing being so hard on yourself or stop putting yourself down. You are important and you are just as important as anyone else in your life! You need to trust yourself to make decision,  and of it’s the wrong one or a mistakes.. it’s okay don’t be so hard on yourselves. Everyone makes mistakes (and everyone has them days because nobody’s perfect… thank you Hannah Montana for that very catchy and encouraging song). Mistakes are a pathway to where we are going in life so be thankful for them but also learn from them. I love talking to others about my past guy mistakes (I call it story time with Jade) because I was so so stupid trusting certain guys in my life and that was my mistake, but I want to say I learned from it but that’s still in the air. But the reason why I tell others about my mistakes is to hope they don’t make the same mistakes as I did.

Your mistakes may hurt you and make you angry, but battle scars show us where we came from and how much we grew and that’s so important. So trust yourself because no one is better at telling you how to live your life and get the best out of YOUR experiences than yourself.

Day 5: Eat Your favorite Dessert

Ooh, I do this tip all the time, I love dessert, I love candy, I love sweets! But Eat your favorite dessert because you need to treat yourself. I know that some people are on a diet but it’s okay to eat your favorite dessert once in a while. Desserts and sugars won’t kill you (too much, of course but too much of anything is bad) . Plus a way to keep a healthy diet is by getting ALL the food categories of the pyramid and sugar and sweets is at the tippy top!

So eat that cookie, eat that slice of cheesecake or cake or pie, or if you like fruits as your sweet, eat that too. I love fruits but eat what you love. Because that makes you happy.

Keep it Dorky,

With lots of love,


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28 Days of Loving Yourself

Since February is the only month that has 28 days (unless it’s a leap year..) and is known for the love month because of valentine’s day.

Some people feel extremely left out because they don’t have a spouse, our Significant Other. But Something that is helpful is using this month to focus on love for yourself because that is extremely important.

You don’t need to only be single to celebrate 28 days to love yourself, and yes just like Valentine’s day, it shouldn’t just be done in February but sometimes, you just don’t have any self love or you’re really insecure. I know I use to be super insecure, I had no self confidence and I hated myself. So something like this is a great way to start because it can be hard to love yourself.

real prize

Especially how society is now a days and society tells you “nobody’s perfect” but you have to look a certain way or be a certain weight to be considered beautiful (BTW, so NOT true.) And since the rise of social media, it’s harder to love yourself when you’re constantly reminded on how ‘beautiful’ everyone else is.

But just remember, people put their best pictures out on their Instagram or Facebook. Just remember this quote:

“The reason we struggle with insecurity is because we compare our behind-the-scenes with everyone else’s highlight reel.” – Steve Furtick

But I will blog about that another time and in more in depth (YAY!)


…So the 28 Days of Loving Yourself is just 28 days of different tips that I have for you(that I will be doing as well!)! Since it’s February 4th, I will catch up on the 3 days I missed ( I decided I was doing this last night… whoops..)


Day 1: Stop Putting yourself down!

I know this can be super hard, I get it. I know for that I constantly put myself down because I use to be a complete perfectionist. But everything can’t be perfect. No one is perfect, nothing is perfect. Everything and everyone has flaws. And that’s okay, I started to learn that flaws are beautiful too.

When I think of this Day 1 Tip, I think of 2 quotes.

Quote 1:

Japan broken.jpg

And it’s really important because we break and we bend (of course theoretically) because of everything we struggle in life. And I know this concept in Japan (more better reason to love Japan) that broken objects are repaired with gold because it is a part of history and adds to the beauty. I love it, when I think of my insecurities (and when I feel broken in general) .. I think of this quote and it makes me appreciate my flaws a little bit more


Quote 2:


This one is another quote that I love, it just says that you might find yourself ugly because of your flaws or your mistakes. But just because you can’t see your worth or beauty doesn’t mean it isn’t there because everyone else can see your worth.

So just remember with these two quotes, stop being so hard on yourself. You are still growing, it’s okay to make mistakes and it’s okay to mess up. You live and you learn. You’ll fly. But you don’t need to be so hard on yourself. And putting yourself down is a way that you are being hard on yourself. So what if you “aren’t as pretty as her” or you aren’t as “smart” as her/him or whatever you are being so hard on yourself for.

You are you and that is good enough. 


Day 2: Get Dressed up!

Get Dressed up or not. That’s okay too. I know for a fact that I love getting dressed up but it can be a hassle. Whatever is comfortable for you! Whatever makes you love yourself more. If you want to look pretty or dress up, curl/straight or style your hair. Do it! You deserve to feel pretty. You deserve to have moments (if it’s not all the time) where you look at yourself in the mirror and say wow! and smile. You have to start somewhere, whether it’s your favorite outfit, your favorite dress, whatever.

And you don’t have to dress up to feel beautiful either! You can be comfy and cute, whenever you want. You want to be a potato, be a potato. Because who doesn’t love potato…. there are different shapes and sizes of potato (potato chips, mashed potatoes, sweet potatoes, french fries, etc and they are all amazing)

Day 3: Get moving!

I know that sometimes you make these plans that you’ve been putting off for a while (i.e. going to the gym), we all do it. I’ve been putting off so much that I need to do because it’s a bit hard and I’m lazy. But Push yourself to do it. I’m trying to get what I need to get done. Making a mental health club on campus, going to the gym once a week, get my driver’s licence. The time is now, and once you get moving… you’ll be thankful that you got up and are completing your quest (for you non-gamers out there, quest are a search or pursuit made in order to find or obtain something)

Get up, put on some pants (I know, it’s a struggle sometimes) and get moving! Because you can do anything you put your heart and mind to. Don’t let anyone stop you, especially yourself.

Keep it dorky,
With Lots of Love,

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A College Student with Depression?

For those of you who visit my blog a lot (thank you for all your love and support, you amazing human, you!) know I have depression and I can get anxiety symptoms as well…

And for those of you who are new to my blog (welcome! I hope you love it and it helps you! Thank you for visiting me!), well… I’m Jade and I have depression.

If you notice that I said I have depression and not I’m a depressed person. We should really stop identifying ourselves as our mental illness, my child development teacher at Penn State (who is amazing, I love her!) even once said in class, “you don’t see people walking around saying, ‘I’m cancer or I’m high blood pressure.’ so why do we do it with mental illnesses?”

And it’s a good point, but I’m not here to lecture you about that (but if you want me to, I can. I can make a powerpoint and everything for you! 😛 ). So I don’t classify myself (or anyone with a mental illnesses) as my depression. But I’m open about it and I talk about it.

Now, according to statistics about every 1 in 4 people has a mental illness. And “18-24 year old age group shows the lowest rate of help-seeking.” (Active Minds)

Now if you find yourself being that 1 in 4 people that has a mental illness, don’t feel bad or lonely… because 1 in 4 people has a mental illness. I know it feels like at times that you’re the only one out there that has a mental illness, I promise you.. you aren’t alone. (And you are very loved and wanted. Help is a phone call or text away).


College is a special time of life, one of my most favorite times that I’ve lived so far (it’s so much better than in middle and high school) but college can be SO SO SO stressful. Such as freshman year and/or transferring. More stressful if you go to a new college and know no one. Which I had to do twice. And it sucks…

Tip #1: Transiting to the college life and being in a new environment with people who you don’t know is hard. Plus college course loads can be difficult and joining clubs can add on to the stress as well. It’s like all of these stressful (but fun!) events happening all at once. But my advice as a junior student, take it easy your first year (at the college). You have 3 years to join clubs, take this time to meet people and focus on your school work!

Tip #2: Get ahead of homework, assignments and reading! It might be nerdy but I try to get ahead of reading, homework and assignments (but not too far but work on big projects a little bit, here and there) just so all the big assignments and exams doesn’t hit me all at once.

And plus, having depression can really kick my butt during the semester. Sometimes it is hard for me to get up in the morning and go to class. Sometimes the stress that I have gets way too overwhelming for me and I just shut down. It happens, and it’s normal.

Tip #3: Go to counseling on campus! Most colleges has free counseling services, use it! You pay for it! Even if it’s something small, use it! It’s better than not going to counseling at all.

Tip #3: Talk privately with your professor and be honest about your mental illness! I know this can be very uncomfortable but if it’s a class that counts attendance and you know that sometimes you cant get out of bed because of your mental illness or you are going through an episode. It’s nice for your professor to know about it, they might be more understanding then you think and give you further tips and advice.  But, not all professors are like that (because lack of information about mental illness and stigma), however, don’t judge all professors on one, two or a handful of them not understanding. I usually email my professors or tell them in person about it and tell them that the reason why I’m telling them is because, it could effect my academic life and I just wanted to give them a heads up. And most of my professors were super understanding about it.

Tip #4: Write positive messages and quotes on sticky notes and put it on your wall, mirror, notebook and/or text book! This is just a cute little way to remind yourself how amazing you are and motivate you to keep going. Because we all need motivation and encouragement!

Tip #5:  Write your academic goals for the semester/year. This can be helpful so you can visually see your goals written down, its even more helpful when you write them steps to get to that goal and check mark when you complete a step! It’s not always about the destination but sometimes the journey that takes you there. And it’s okay to celebrate small steps towards your goals (it’s called positive reinforcement!)

Tip #6: Make a mental health toolkit or box. I have a little crate under my bed in my dorm room that I keep my mental health toolkit. I have small little stuffed animals, color books, stress-balls, play-doh and magic sand, bubbles, bubble-wrap, books, and positive note cards in it. I also have snacks in the same crate (because I know sweets). Make your own kit and put whatever calms you down in it! Music, pillows, blankets, pictures of good memories, play-doh, stickers, whatever calms you down!

I really hope this helps college students (and everyone else in the world) with dealing with academics, stress, life and mental illnesses. Just remember, you are strong and you got this! I believe in you!

As always, Keep it dorky.

With lots of love,


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The “Good” in “Goodbye

You know how people always say they’ll leave people behind in the previous year when a new year comes around? I know I hear it a lot on facebook, twitter and snapchat. I never was really like that, I never liked giving up on people and leaving them behind…

In fact, I was the one that was left behind… and it doesn’t feel great.

Well this year, I got really jealous about this one guy that I was unofficially ‘talking’ to and for some reason it pushed me over the edge. I’ve talked to him for about a month and I liked him a lot, I found myself falling for him over and over again… each and every day. Well when he decided to end our “whatever”-ship (those relationships that you just don’t even know what to name them), it hurt. When I had to take the stuff that I had at his apartment, driving away from his place… hurt.. I had a lot of memories of us and of his daughter… It really hurt and I miss it. I miss them.

But seeing him with another girl, not knowing if it was friends or more (though, it’s none of my business) made this really ugly side of me come out. And I don’t like it. Also, he doesn’t care as much as he should for me. And when I decided to cut him off in general, no friends… nothing. Just classmates…. well things turned for the south.

*Keep in mind, I’m an EXTREMELY caring and loving person and you can do the most terrible thing to me…. and I’d still probably be there… well, I’d still care some what about you.

But I just started to care less. I felt nothing (side effect with having depression and taking medication… numbness), like at all. So when he was telling me how I was boring (because I cared for him) and that he’ll never want me… I truly did not care. In fact, I was glad.

I don’t need someone like that in my life, someone who doesn’t care or fight for our friendship. I don’t need someone that will only want me for a short amount of time. I deserve more than that.

Never in my 20, almost 21 years of living have I truly thought that. Not until today and I’m proud of myself. I looked up an “over you” playlist on spotify and jammed out (even terribly sang along).

And One song that I annoying snapped was quoting the Queen herself, Beyoncé’s song… “Best Thing You Never Had.” Oh, I felt that song in my heart, soul and mind.

I’ll put some of the lyrics up,

“There was a time
I thought, that you did everything right
No lies, no wrong
Boy, I must’ve been out of my mind
So, when I think of the time that I almost loved you
You showed your ass and I—I saw the real you

Thank God you blew it
I thank God I dodged the bullet
I’m so over you
So, baby, good lookin’ out

I wanted you bad
I’m so through with that
‘Cause honestly you turned out to be the best thing I never had
You turned out to be the best thing I never had
And I’m gon’ always be the best thing you never had
Oh yeah, I bet it sucks to be you right now

So sad, you’re hurt
Boo hoo, oh, did you expect me to care?
You don’t deserve my tears
I guess that’s why they ain’t there
When I think that there was a time that I almost loved you
You showed your ass and, baby, yes, I saw the real you”

“Thank God I found the good in goodbye.”

-Beyoncé (Lyrics from AZ Lyrics)

And boom, a quote I will always use. “Thank God I found the good in goodbye.”

Just remember, that it hurts to let go but sometimes, letting go is better for you. I’m hurting still losing him, but I’m still here.. living. Sometimes people are toxic and they are negative and that’s not healthy for you. You need to understand when enough is enough for you.

Picture yourself as a flower (a very pretty flower, as I might add) and imagine being watered with negativity… well that’s not going to help you grow. And it’s not your fault, the environment you are trying to grow in isn’t healthy for you. So we need to put you into a better environment, where you are watered with positivity, encouragement and love.. and trust me darling, you will grow.

But in reality, People leave…

One of my (many) favorite quotes from Perks of Being a Wallflower by Stephen Chbosky said;

“Things change, people leave, and life doesn’t stop for anyone.”

-Stephen Chbosky

Letting go sucks, but it happens. You have to find the good in goodbye, because there’s always a reason why someone comes and leave your life. (Either a blessing or a lesson)

Keep that in the back of your head and don’t forget, to keep it dorky!

With lots of love,


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Happy New Year!!

Goodbye 2017 and a big hello to 2018! 2017 was a struggle wasn’t it? Just like everyone, I went through some rough times but it wasn’t a terrible year. I’ve had worst years in the past and I got through them, just like I got through 2017! And so did you!

I’m so proud of you! You are so strong! But instead of thinking what can go wrong this upcoming year, let’s raise our glasses  (our pretend glasses) to all the great stuff that is going to happen this year!

Because in every bad, there is good (also vise versa). Sadly, the way life works… you always have bad with the good. But making the best out of your situation is a great way to live.

My biggest challenge for 2017 was leaving my college that was my home and leaving all my close friends. Coming to a new college and knowing no one was hard. And it hit my depression a lot, also having problems with where I lived (being off campus and not getting along with my apartment-mates) added to the depression. But I stuck my head up high, and made the best out of it.

Slowly, I started making friends and I stopped caring about my living situation. Everything isn’t perfect right now but I’m pretty content on how things are going. And I’m going to try and make this the best year that I can!

Here are some reminders for 2018:

  • Stop wondering if you’re good enough for other people and start wondering if they are good enough for you
  • Don’t be afraid to ask for help sooner
  • Spend time with people who make you feel happy
  • Focus on the present moment
  • Don’t beg for someone to stay
  • Save space for people who actually matter
  • Love and respect yourself
  • Don’t give up your happiness, comfort and/or safety for anyone
  • Don’t forget or downgrade your worth
  • Don’t let others determine your worth (because they don’t)
  • Mental health matters as much as physical health
  • Don’t sacrifice your mental health for your grades

And just general reminders, if no one has told you this today:

  • You are worthy
  • You are loved
  • You are amazing
  • You are beautiful
  • You are smart
  • You matter so much

and don’t forget to keep it dorky!

With Lots of Love,


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Merry Christmas!

Hi All! I just want to wish you and your friends and family (pets too! I count my pets as family) a very special and happy Christmas, Kwanzaa, Hanukkah or other holidays that I don’t know the name of!

From my family to yours, stay safe! Take care of yourself (mentally, emotionally and physically… spirituality too if you’re religious)! Keep going because the year is almost over and soon things are going to be a fresh start!

Since, I have viewers from around the world…. I’m going to ATTEMPT to say Merry Christmas in all the languages I can find and I deeply apologize if the translation fails me and I say Merry Christmas in your language wrong.

Merry Christmas! (English)

Feliz Navidad! (Spanish)

Maligayang Pasko! (Tagalog)

Hristos se rodi (Sebian)

Joyeux Noël! (French)

Kreesmasko shubhkaamnaa! (Nepali)

Gledelig Jul (Norwegian)

Frohe Weihnachten (German)

Chuć Mưǹg Giańg Sinh (Vietnamese)

শুভ বড়দিন (Bengali/Bangledesh)

Crăciun Fericit (Romanian)

C рождеством! (Russian)

Veselé Vianoce (Slovakian)

Buon Natale (Italian)

Καλά Χριστούγεννα (Greek)

عيد ميلاد مجيد (Arabic)

חג מולד שמח (Hebrew)

圣诞快乐 (Mandarin)

Meri Kurisumasu (Japanese)

메리 크리스마스 (Korean)

Felicem Diem Nativitatis (Latin)


Thank you to for the translations ( I got all of them from there)

Have a very great holidays, take care of yourself as always…

Keep it dorky!

With Lots of Love,



p.s. Thanks for all the support you’ve all given me in the last year, I’m so thankful for you all!



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My Mix-Tape

I was talking with my friend Jesse about a project that he had to do with his art class, his project was to make a mix tape (sadly, not a real mix-tape… more like a playlist) of 5 songs that he loves and explain why he loves that. He also had to add other stuff that I really didn’t pay attention to because I’m not in the class.

It got me thinking, what would I put on my “mix-tape?” And also choosing 5 songs would be crazy difficult!

I ended up telling him what songs I would choose and it’s not a surprise that I would chose them. (I am adding the lyric video of the songs from youtube, if you haven’t listen to them, please feel free.. they are amazing. I love these songs)

Song # 1 : Superheroes by The Script  

Piece of Lyrics: 

“‘Cause he’s stronger than you know
A heart of steel starts to grow
When you’ve been fighting for it all your life
You’ve been struggling to make things right
That’s how a superhero learns to fly
(Every day, every hour, turn that pain into power)” – The Script


I love this song because I believe that we’re all superheroes (Im also into super heroes) and just like superheroes, they don’t just get up.. no matter how beat up they are. They always get back up and fight. We are strong like Superman, Spiderman, Wonder Woman, Batman, Iron Man, all of million of them. I personally love to cosplay as Wonder Woman, as well as I am a huge fan of hers because she’s strength. No matter how upset I get, I remember that I am Wonder Woman; I am strong, I will get through this, I will change this world, and I won’t give up. This song is just beautiful and I truly love this song.


Song 2: Stand By You by Rachel Platten 

Piece of Lyrics:

“Even if we’re breaking down, we can find a way to break through
Even if we can’t find heaven, I’ll walk through hell with you
Love, you’re not alone, ’cause I’m gonna stand by you
Even if we can’t find heaven, I’m gonna stand by you
Even if we can’t find heaven, I’ll walk through hell with you
Love, you’re not alone, ’cause I’m gonna stand by you” -Rachel Platten


So lately I’ve been watching Glee ( I know I’m waaay behind!) and to be honest, I wish I lived in the Glee World. I would love to sing and dance my way through my problems. Well if I could sing and dance any song to my friends, my family, to my readers/followers (which you guys are my friends too), this would be the song. It describes how I feel as someone who wants to be a counselor and wants to help others get through what they are thinking and feeling. There’s nothing I wouldn’t do for my friends, I’ll go through anything and everything along side with anyone who will reach out to me for help. “Love, you’re not alone, ‘ cause I’m gonna stand by you.”

Song 3: 1-800-273-8255 by Logic

Piece of Lyrics:

“I’ve been on the low
I been taking my time
I feel like I’m out of my mind
It feel like my life ain’t mine
Who can relate?
I’ve been on the low
I been taking my time
I feel like I’m out of my mind
It feel like my life ain’t mine

I want you to be alive
I want you to be alive
You don’t gotta die today
You don’t gotta die
I want you to be alive
I want you to be alive
You don’t gotta die” – Logic


I’m pretty sure this my life anthem, since I do have depression and I struggle with suicidal thoughts, I feel this song. And it’s like Logic (and others) are singing from my point of view and to me through the song. This song begins to explain what it’s like in the mind, of course not too much but the bare minimum. Plus the fact that the title of this song is the suicide hotline, means everything to me. It’s an amazing song and I appreciate Logic so much for making this issue publicly, it’s about time we put that suicide is a serious problem and that we need to help reduce this and help those who need it.

Song 4: Paralyzed by Against The Current 

Piece of Lyrics:

“It feels like I’m paralyzed, and I can’t
Escape from the prison I’m, living in
I’m naming the voices in my head
To keep on telling me to give in
But it making me stronger
Fight a little longer
I’m gonna bring me back to life
And I won’t be paralyzed” – Against the Current


Against the Current has to be one of my favorite (if not my favorite) band ever. Their type of music is amazing and the singers are amazing. Soothing and I love listening to them when I’m winding down and relaxing. This song, kind of empowers me especially when she says she’ll keep fighting, bringing herself back to life and she won’t be paralyzed. It’s just a song that I can relate to when I’m feeling the strength I have when I get through a depression /suicide episode or anxiety attack, or when I wish I had that strength, I have this song to help me get that strength back. Yay for empowerment!

Song 5: Man in The Mirror by Michael Jackson

Piece of Lyrics:

“That’s Why I Want You To
I’m Starting With The Man In
The Mirror
I’m Asking Him To Change
His Ways
And No Message Could Have
Been Any Clearer
If You Wanna Make The World
A Better Place
(If You Wanna Make The
World A Better Place)
Take A Look At Yourself, And
Then Make A Change” – Michael Jackson


Since I am a huge Michael Jackson fan, I’ve always loved this song because I believe that if you really want to change the world… you got to start with yourself. Life is always about changes and even though chances are really scary, they’re great sometimes. And since I’m going to change myself, I need to start by changing some things about myself; making myself better, happier, healthier. I can’t help anyone if I’m stuck in one of my depressive slumps. So, here’s to another self-discovery, self-improve and self-love journey and I’m going in with so much optimism. I know I’m going to come out better, for myself, for my friends& family and for all of you guys!♥


Since we are speaking of music, I made a playlist on spotify called “Love Your Strength” and it’s a bunch of songs that’s empowering, self-loving, motivational, inspiring! A present from me to you. Music can really help a suffering soul, and I want to help in any and every way possible. The playlist is posted blow! I hope you enjoy!

Keep it dorky!

With lots of love, Jade♥


Posted in Letters, Life, Mental Health Awareness, Resources, Tips/Advice

Suicide Prevention Month

I was watching the VMA’s last Sunday and I watched this artist that I’ve never heard of perform a song I didn’t know at all. I’ve heard it on the radio for like a little bit and changed the channel.

Well this artist’s performance made me cry throughout the whole thing. It was Logic’s message and performance of 1-800-273-8255 (Link is the performance).

I cried through the whole thing and about 10 minutes after and I remember texting my friend Ryan about it. He was of course concerned on why I was crying in the first place and after I explained it to him that when I was struggling with my worst parts of my depression, I never had that.

I cried because that is something I wish I had. I cried because I saw the fact that was on TV and a lot of people were watching this. I cried because this is the start of the awareness of mental health and suicide prevention. I cried because that performance and message probably helped or will help a lot of people.

I may be an extremely emotional person, in general, but this really touched me and my heart. I loved it and I’m so happy that Logic came out with that song.

Well, September is Suicide Prevention Month and World Suicide Prevention Day is coming on the 10th and I’m ready for it with my TWLOHA “Stay, Find What You Were Made For Gear” (link is provided if you want to check it out). I have little positive cards to leave around for the 10th and I’m excited.

But this is making me think of why I’m a huge advocate for this cause and for mental health and that’s because I live it everyday.

I thought back today and thought about the day I wanted to kill myself, the day I tried to attempt to.

Its a day that I try to forget as much as I can, but it’s hard to forget about it. I remember having no hope at all, I cried every night and every morning, I had cut marks all over my stomach. I thoughts that my family, my friends, my school , my community, everyone would be so much better off without me. Happier. And I was always about making others happy and this was something that could help others.

I struggled with that thoughts every day for a long.. long time, and that thoughts pops in my mind, every once in a while still. I still remember being so scared to do it, and all I could think about when I was getting ready to do it… was how would my parents actually react to it.

And I think that’s what actually broke me down more. It was like my mind was being tugged between life and death. I didn’t know what to believe, I really didn’t. And when I couldn’t do it, physically couldn’t do it. I left and I cried and cried. I didn’t know what to do, I didn’t know where to go, how to get help, I didn’t know who to turn to, I didn’t know what to even say or think.

Looking back to that day, I was so thankful that I didn’t do it. I would never experience meeting amazing people who changed my life. People who gave me life, challenge me, made me feel wanted, people who were there. I would never build the strength that I have no, because without that strength, all the experiences I’ve been through.. I wouldn’t be here telling you.

If I killed myself years ago, I wouldn’t be here changing my life and others. 

If I killed myself years ago, I wouldn’t be here inspiring and helping others. 

If I killed myself years ago, I would never see the day that I believe in myself as I do now. 

If I killed myself years ago, I would never see that things truly do get better.

This is me telling you, that it does get better. I know it feel like it’ll never get better. I know the feeling, I can’t feel what you feel but I know that thought. But you need to keep fighting, you need to keep being strong because you can and you deserve it. You deserve to be happy, to live and you are strong enough. I know you are. I believe in you.

If you or someone you know is suicidal or having suicidal thoughts, please contact someone. There are so many resources to have:

Suicide HotLine: 1-800-273-8255

Crisis Textline: Text HOME to 741741

Suicide Crisis Chat:

And if someone is in immediate danger, dial 911.

You matter. You are worthy. You are important. You are loved. Please Stay Alive.

With lots of love,



Posted in Life, Mental Health Awareness, Tips/Advice

Why am I not her?

So a huge problem that I had in the past was comparing myself to other women. I did it all throughout high school and as much as I hate to admit it, I still do it today. Subconsciously.

I always catch myself thinking how much I wish I could look like this girl because she’s SO pretty and guys always go for her. I think that’s where my weak point hits, when I think that I’m not as attractive to guys as much as I truly am.

Guys are attracted to me, they just aren’t as open as it. They look when I walk by and I’m sure someone has feelings or thinks I’m the most beautiful women, he’s ever seen. But it’s just the fact that they aren’t chasing me or they aren’t verbal about it is what makes me think that maybe I’m not as pretty or as attractive.

Something that I use to let bother me was how many likes I got on social media…

Good ol’ social media. Creating insecurity problems since it was created.

I would always see other girls get a ton of more likes on their pictures or selfies then I ever would and I would be left thinking… “why?” and questioning myself and my appearance.

“Why is she better than me?”  “Am I not attractive enough?” “What does she have that I don’t have?” 

But I feel like that’s just social media and society trying to play with your emotions and your confidence and man, do they love playing that game.

Society will tell you to look a certain way, like a “super model” or a celebrity. You have to look this way or dress this way to be attractive…

Well, that’s not true. Whether you know it or not, someone is going to find you attractive. But not everyone will and that’s okay. If you have to have the mindset that every guy or every girl HAS to be physically attracted to you, you’re setting yourself up for disappointment. My tip for you is to be attracted to yourself, because that’s the only opinion that actually matters to you.* And then if someone doesn’t find you attractive, oh well, you’ll find someone who is worth your time.

*Now, there is a difference between loving yourself and finding yourself attractive and being cocky. Confidence is beauty and strong, Cockiness/ being conceited is not beauty or strong, it’s just rude and annoying.

Social media wasn’t created to make you feel pretty crappy about yourself but there is a correlation linking the amount of usage and self esteem issues…

 “The second study examined the impact of temporary exposure to social networking sites on state self-esteem. The results show that participants experienced lower state self-esteem and poorer self-evaluations after exposure to a person with a high activity social network. Participants also had poorer self-evaluations after exposure to an upward healthy comparison target  (someone who presented themselves as more healthy, young, and vibrant). Generally speaking, viewing social media profiles with positive content (upward comparison on health, fitness, active social network) resulted in poorer state self-esteem and more negative self-evaluations. ”

New York Behavioral Health

As a society, we are so use to basing our worth on numeral numbers, such as, weight, height, GPA and the amount of likes. But can we actually count our self-worth in numeral numbers?

No! No, we can’t, nor should we. How can you weigh the beauty of a heart or a soul? No, you can’t. So it’s time to stop trying to put our self worth in numbers or in things that can change. And start realizing the self worth in ourselves for who we are, not all on what we look like. And that will automatically boost your self confidence and help you find the beauty in yourself.

Also, as hard as it may be.. we (or you) need to stop comparing ourselves to other women. And honesty, it’s not just women who do it. Men does it too. They might not think they have enough muscles or that they aren’t that attractive because they don’t look the same and they don’t have abs, etc.

Well, this needs to stop. Personally, I’ve been trying to not compare myself to other people (especially, friends) who get more likes than me on facebook or IG. Likes on these posts (just like weight and height) are just a number, they only have a numerical number to it and that’s it. It doesn’t measure your self worth. 


*Side note: Can we all just appreciate chibird for all the amazing and cute drawing they do. Like THANK YOU SO MUCH♥♥♥

I really hope this post helps you realize that you are beautiful for who you are, flaw and all. Physically, mentally, emotionally and spirituality.

As I was doing some research, I came across the National Association for Self Esteem (and as always, I got super excited) and if it’s an amazing tool to help boost (and learn) your self esteem! So please, check it out! Send it to a friend! Because it’s pretty awesome. Man, I LOVE mental health resources!

With Lots of Love,



*PS, I have an amazing friend who did a blog post about social media and our mental health. If you liked this post, you’ll love hers! Please, please check it out!